Divorce is Wonderful...
....at least compared to bad marriages.
I don't understand people sometimes. I really don't understand what good is done if people who make each miserable are forced to stay together. How is this helping children, how is this helping spouses, how is this helping society?
Strip aside all of the religious mumbo-jumbo, and social expectations, and all marriage is in the US is an elaborate contract designating a strong interpersonal relationship. That's it. And "traditional" marriage wasn't even a contract designating a relationship: it was a property exchange between a father and husband.
So I don't understand this "stay-in-marriage-at-all-cost" mentality. Why? What's so great about marriage?
I would like to see the divorce rate lowered, BUT I would prefer to see the divorce rate lowered by less people getting married. I think it should be much, much harder for a person to get married: for instance I think parents should not be able to give consent for minor children to get married. I think that engagement periods should be longer, and "quickie" marriages in Las Vegas should not be allowed, at all. I think that people should have a real idea of what they are getting into when they get married, and "shotgun" weddings should be illegal.
Marriage does not make you more mature, it does not make your relationships stronger, it does not make you a better, more understanding person, and it does not teach you to be a good parent. Marriage is a tool, that is merely as good as the people using it.